Who taught you to lie?

So I am working on this paper that tests whether parents transfer their preferences and behaviors onto their children. It’s quite an interesting theory albeit not an old one. The nature versus nurture debate is something I would leave the scientists to fight over. For me, I am just sticking to proving the hypothesis that INDEED apple does not fall far from the tree. Or maybe it does. Only time will tell.

 

Anyway, while researching I could not help thinking how if this hypothesis turns out to be true: then it may have severe implications.

For one, this might mean we get not only the good stuff from parents, like being kind, being patient, etc etc. but also the bad stuff: lying, deceit, manipulation….etc. etc.

Which made me wonder: who taught me to lie?

Really who did? If I have to look back and figure out the time when I told my first lie, it would have to be one that my very own family members asked me to tell.

And that’s scary.

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6 thoughts on “Who taught you to lie?

        1. http://www.scholastic.com/parents/resources/article/stages-milestones/truth-about-lying

          “Like everything else, children learn to lie from the people around them. Parents and teachers show children in subtle — and not so subtle — ways to suppress their honesty. “Look at that funny man,” a child will yell. “I don’t like this,” she’ll say of Grandma’s gift. “Yuck,” he says about food that doesn’t taste good. Adults slowly teach children that this kind of honesty is not always welcome — that there is a fine line between telling the truth and not hurting other people. ”

          This is more so what I was thinking of. We generally teach kids to curb their honesty to make them more socially acceptable and then it turns into bigger lies. I would hope that, in general, parents don’t ask their children to blatantly lie for them, but that might just be wishful thinking.

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        2. of course they do and not consciously or rather they do it subconsciously.
          for instance making them answer the door and asking them to tell whoever it is that the parents arent home. or complementing someone out of courtesy even if the child doesn’t really like them. etc. etc.

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